theOppermanian 004: Talking with a Young Husband about Marriage

theOppermanian 004: Talking with a Young Husband about Marriage

If you are thinking of becoming or have recently become married, this episode is for you. I talk with a young husband who is almost at the one year mark about some of the challenges and triumphs he has found in this first year.

After spending 32 years as a single Jared took the plunge into marriage. If you have been married for a while, especially if you got married young you can imagine all the challenges of becoming one with someone else after spending so many years “on an island.”

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Living with a “Weaker Vessel”

Loving the Differences of Your Wife

Husband and Wife Looking Down the Road

If thirteen years of marriage has taught me anything, it has taught me this, my wife and I are different. Shocking, I know.

Most 1st graders know there is a difference between boys and girls. Of course, we are different physically; it would be tough to procreate if we weren’t, but what I am talking about are some of the other differences that my wife and I have.

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A Tale of Two Mothers

Happy Mother's Day

mothers day flower bouquet

When I was a small boy my mother, father and I moved onto a piece of land shared by my grandparents. There were two houses divided by a small yard. As early as four or five years old I would in the middle of the night sneak over to my grandparents’ and crawl in bed with them. My grandfather would complain about my cold feet but my grandmother never let him kick me out, and that started a bond that I still have with her to this day.

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theOppermanian 003: A Proud Dad Turns Forty

theOppermanian 003: A Proud Dad Turns Forty

Very few things in the life of a father mean as much as seeing his children become outstanding adults and this past week I was very fortunate to see my eldest do just that.

If you are familiar with our story, there was a period that we were unsure if our son would follow in the faith of his parents, but this past week we were able to witness his baptism.

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Overwhelmed by Joy

Passing the Father's Baton

son following father on the beach

I had recently written a post on the journey my family went through with our oldest son. As he started to near adulthood he openly came out against the principles and teaching that his mother and I had spent most of his life instilling in him. I won’t rehash today, but I wanted to give the conclusion and the update to this hurdle of life.

This past Sunday, as I prepared to turn fort… I can’t even type it; I was so blessed to attend the baptismal service of my once wayward son.
It is hard to put into words the feelings and emotion that came to me that morning. After my conversion to Christ, and my wedding day, it was the greatest day of my life.

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Being Loud in a Quiet World

Who Says Silence is Golden?

Child yelling into microphone

I AM LOUD, or at least that is what people say. Can you relate? Or do you know a “Loud” person? When I am out at dinner, there are always those looks from the other tables. You know that look, in fact, you may have given it to me.

In the office, there is even a code word used to tell me when I am too loud, Meatloaf.

Don’t ask.

So how did I get this way? What a silly question. I didn’t get this way. I don’t try to be loud I just am. People act like it’s a disease. Well James, yes he is trying to be quiet. What are we living in a library?

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theOppermanian 002: Raising Your Grandchildren

theOppermanian 002: Raising Your Grandchildren

Dad this week’s theOppermanian Show looks at what it means to raise our children’s children.

Have you ever stopped to think about it, dad? How the things you are teaching your children whether on purpose or by accident are what your children will teach your grandkids? I talk about the great joy and responsibility of living out our lives before eyes and hearts that will pass those lessons on.

I talk about our daughter, KreeperQuinn, and some life lessons that she was able to take away this week. Both in conquering her fears, as well as seeing my wife and I modeling a loving marriage.

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Leaving a Legacy

generations photo with feet inside of hands inside of hands

I am a young father, well maybe more like youngish. While we have seven children ranging from High school to newborn, and I haven’t started to think of myself as a grandfather as we have yet to be blessed with any grandchildren. Maybe I should, however.

I recently was challenged with the idea of I am raising my grandchildren. Say what? You just said you don’t have any grandchildren.

Let me explain.

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theOppermanian 001: What Qualifies theOppermanian to Be a Leader?

theOppermanian 001: What Qualifies theOppermanian to Be a Leader?

What makes a man a leader? I once thought a leader was someone who has it all together. Someone who has all the answers. This definition was so wrong.

I have learned, through the trials of life, that a leader is someone who simply understands who is further along the desired path that they want to travel, and is humble enough to follow. So they can, in turn, be followed.

Thanks for joining me this week for theOppermanian Show.

Today I talk about what qualifies me to be a leader. To be a leader, of my wife, my children, and hopefully you, Father. I don’t know everything, in fact quite the opposite, but I do believe there are men out there that are not yet where I am.

Just as I am not yet to the place other men are. I want to help those who are little further back to see where those ahead of me are going.(1 Corinthians 11:1)

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The 4 Toughest Words a Father Can Hear

Dad I'm ...

A Son Reading Bible on Bed

Working late at the office one night, I got the call. “Hun, you might need to come home. I am talking with our son and I’m not sure what to do,” says my wife. “Can you tell me over the phone?” My reply.

“No, not really, can you please come home?” I could hear the distress in her voice.

My mind is racing. I don’t even remember the ride home, but I am sure it was not one that would have been approved by local law enforcement. Bursting through the door I see my son sitting in our dining room, tears in my wife’s eyes.

“What’s going on I ask?”

“You might want to sit down,” replies my wife.

“I am fine would someone please just speak?!”

My son looks at me and drops the bomb, “Dad, I’m an Atheist.”

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