What is Truth?

Is Honesty Truly the Best Policy

Lock and Chain on Door

Any father with a child old enough to communicate has said something along the lines of, “If I find out later that you lied it will be worse than if you just tell me the truth.” Kids lie. People lie. In fact, as someone who often talks about spiritual things with people, this is one sin people will almost universally admit to, with some justification of course.

As a father understanding why children lie to you is important. It reminds me of a skit from comedian Louis C.K. (Disclaimer: This embedded video is clean but be careful listening to him in other videos if you try to avoid vulgarities.)

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theOppermanian 010: Road Tripping with the Family

theOppermanian 010: Road Tripping with the Family

After a two-week hiatus, theOppermanian is back and better than ever. Joined this week by Richard Hayhoe of Beans Cafe we discuss theOppermanian’s travels over the past couple of weeks.

I traveled west to San Franciso for some technical training and I got to experience first hand the adage attributed to Mark Twain, “The coldest winter I ever spent was a summer in San Francisco.” Plus had an opportunity to experience some of the local cuisines.

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theOppermanian 009: The Great White Whale aka Moby Dick

theOppermanian 009: The Great White Whale aka Moby Dick

This week I am joined once again by fellow father and entrepreneur, Richard Hayhoe. This week we talk about his first introduction to his grandson and the importance of generational leadership. We also talk about the newest addition to the land of Oppermania, Moby Dick.

If you haven’t heard our oldest son recently crashed our minivan, so we took it as an opportunity to upgrade to a great big huge ginormous white “Church Van.” While my wife is none too please, it is growing on her, it is the perfect addition to our growing tribe.

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theOppermanian 008: Shaking Things Up a Bit

theOppermanian 008: Shaking Things Up a Bit

Today’s show is an introduction to a new semi-regular co-host of theOppermanian, Richard Hayhoe. It was the original intention of the show to be a co-hosted affair, but at launch, I had yet to find another father who was in the same place as myself.

After listening to several episodes of the show, my friend Richard, who leads a tribe of eight children, asked if I’d be interested in having him on the show. Seeing as his life experience similarly matched mine, yet with enough major differences, he’s Canadian, that it felt like a perfect fit.

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theOppermanian 007: Developing a Life Plan

theOppermanian 007: Developing a Life Plan

How many of you have have a budget? Do you sit down at the beginning of your month and you decide I will spend $50 on Starbucks, $75 on eating out, etc? While money is imperative in this life, there is nothing more important than your time. So today we are going to talk about a thing called a life plan.

In the recommended resources I link to a book called Living Forward by Michael Hyatt and Daniel Harkavy. In the book, they outline what they call life planning. The idea is simple just as a person would look at their paycheck and determine the priority of each dollar spent; we need to look at our time the same way.

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Women’s Intuition

Are You Listening to Your Wife's

Two Hands Making a Heart Shape

We’ve all been there men, on that road with unfamiliar scenery whipping past the window. Wait, was it the last crossroad or the next. All the while the missus is sitting beside you, the look on her face saying, “Are you just going to stop and ask directions?” Of course not. I’m the captain of this ship.

I must say since the advent of the smartphone I haven’t had this happen quite as often. However, I want today to talk about the directions of life. As the captain of our family, we often don’t want to admit we are on the wrong road. We believe that if we don’t show supreme confidence in our decisions that we run the risk of seeming weak.

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theOppermanian 006: Father and Son, Talking with the Eldest Opperminion

theOppermanian 005: Father and Son, Talking with the Eldest Opperminion

On this episode of theOppermanian Show, I sit down with the eldest member of the Opperminions, Zion. As a dad who has tried to be an example to all of the Opperminions, I am so blown away with who this young man has become.

In this episode, we examine some of the Zion’s background and what it meant to grow up in Oppermania. We share some of our most humorous stories of Zions young life, and I give him an opportunity to let me know how I may or may not have always been the best dad.

We wrap up with what it meant for him to grow up as a homeschooled, part of a large family. Some of the pros and cons associated with that and finally what does his future hold.

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How to Be a Grown-up

Putting Away Childish Things

Children's Toy Cars on Bench

When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. ( 1 Cor 13:11) These words from the apostle Paul need to be in every young father’s vocabulary.

As a young man, I loved games. I loved board games, card games, video games. Ultimately those games that I loved were more about selfishness than they were about relaxing and connecting with those with whom I played.

For the first few years of marriage, I continued to be a “gamer.” My wife and I had a lot of arguments over those times that I would spend in front of a computer screen or out with my friends playing ball. Before you say it, husband, it wasn’t that she didn’t want to let me have fun, it was that I was still doing these activities as though I were a single man. I was neglecting her as well as our young family. I still understood as a child.

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theOppermanian 005: Talking about Oppermania with theOppermom

theOppermanian 005: Talking about Oppermania with theOppermom

This week we are connecting with theOppermom about Oppermania and where we are as husband and wife.We cover several different topics this week including the challenges and successes of launching a family based internet media company.

My wife and I have long been in business together, but this new endeavor has stretched our family for the good. We talk about some of the members of Oppermania and our desires and goals for theOpperminions.

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Daddy’s and Daughters

Being Her White Knight

two-roses

As a guy, it is often hard to connect with daughters. I don’t play dress up or do tea parties, so the common interests are usually not there. That being said, as a father of three daughters I do believe it is important to spend time with them one on one, to be their White Knight.

In the spring each year, I attend a daddy-daughter dance with my girls. It is an excellent time to take them out on the town and have fun. It has a dual purpose in my mind however as I am modeling for them what a future date should look like. We dress up. I take them out to dinner. I open the doors and put on their coats. I talk to them about them. You know all the things we want for them out of a potential suitor.

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